Anonymous asked: I follow this blog to see others get the help they deserve. I love how there's so many nice people who do care and whatnot... However, I always feel like I don't deserve any support because it makes me feel like an attention whore.

Everybody deserves support, love! Every single person. And every single person needs support. Part of being human is needing people to rely on emotionally. So you’re not being an attention whore, not at all! In fact, it’s very admirable when someone admits that they need support and actively seeks out that support. It takes character and strength to do that.

<3 Jen

Anonymous asked: Im really worried about someone and they havent replied in like 4hours and i need them so badly :s

Do you have any other way of contacting them? Do you know anybody that might know another way to contact them? Maybe they are just really busy at the moment. Is there anything we could help you with instead?

<3 Jen

Anonymous asked: @anon who had a fight with his/her mother, me too. My mother screamed really nasty and vicious things at me and I realized it was just because she's having her "hormonal" time of the month (she's very cruel around this time). I was crying and so upset I left the house for I don't know how long, at least an hour, sitting outside crying. I came back and she'd locked the front door on me too. I know how you feel. It's okay. It's hard to believe it right now when it hurts but it'll be okay.

^^ Thank you!

Anonymous asked: Am I crazy? The only way for me not to relapse is to trigger myself by looking as pics of self harm. Maybe cause it takes up time?idk...

You’re not crazy, love. I know a few other people that say that looking at pictures of self-harm helps them not do it themselves. Whatever works for you! :) I’d really recommend trying some other methods of distracting yourself, though. Take a look at our distractions list here and see if any of those appeal to you!

<3 Jen

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Anonymous asked: Shadeddaxion posted things saying "I want to die" and "just kill me" please please please can you get people to send xer some love

Please send love!

http://shadeddaxion.tumblr.com/

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Anonymous asked: lightpoems not suicidal (as far as i know) but it would be cool if you guys sent something nice to her

Please send love!

http://lightpoems.tumblr.com/

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Anonymous asked: My mom and I got in a really bad fight and now I'm so angry and I want to relapse and I've been clean for almost 9 months but I'm so pissed off I just wanna relapse and stab myself or cut myself I'm practically pulling out my own hair right now

Hi love,

Please don’t hurt yourself. It’s so awesome that you’ve been 9 months clean! You should be proud of yourself for that. Try to remind yourself why you’ve stayed clean for 9 months. Hurting yourself won’t make you feel better, it will just make things worse. Instead of hurting yourself, try a few of these things instead:

  • Dance to ridiculous music
  • Scream out to music that expresses how you feel
  • Scream into a pillow
  • Punch a pile of pillows 
  • Invest in a punching bag. Punch the absolute shit out of it.
  • Write a letter to someone you’re mad - swear at them, scream at them, get it ALL out, and and tear it up
  • Eat a lemon, sour loly, a chili - anything that will focus on your senses without hurting you.
  • Hold ice cubes in your hand, rub them under your knees, on the heels of your feet.
  • Watch a film that makes you laugh.
  • Take your dog for a walk
  • Wash the dishes
  • Go for a run/sprint
  • Write your thoughts on your body in red pen.
  • Hit soft toys/pillow against the wall repetitively.
  • Have a cold shower. With your clothes on if need be. If you get out of the shower and your urges/anger comes back, get in the shower again.

Do me a favor and try at least four things on that list and see if they help. If they don’t help, message in again, okay? I will be here all night!

<3 Jen

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Anonymous asked: One of my friends in a different state really likes talking on the phone, but talking on the phone terrifies me, even when it's with her... idk what to do... I feel awful when I constantly dodge calls or pretend I'm busy, but I also don't want to tell her about my anxiety because I don't want her to feel bad...

You really have to tell her about your anxiety that centers around talking on the phone, love. When you’re constantly dodging her calls or pretending you are busy, she’s probably thinking that you don’t want to talk to her or that you don’t want to be friends with her any more! Think about how you would feel if a friend of yours never answered your phone calls. You’d assume they didn’t like you and didn’t want to talk to you any more, right? And that would hurt you a lot. So you really need to tell your friend about your anxiety so that you don’t lose her as a friend. She probably feels worse now, thinking that you don’t want to talk to her, then she will feel if you explain things to her! If you tell her, maybe you can figure out another way you can communicate, like texting or Skyping, that gives you less anxiety?

Honestly, the best way to conquer your anxiety about talking on the phone is by doing it little by little. Try talking to her on the phone for just two minutes. Then the next time, try talking to her on the phone for five minutes. Then the next time, try ten minutes. If you do this, slowly you will be able to overcome your fear! If you tell your friend about your anxiety, maybe she can help you do this.

Check out these websites about how to overcome a fear of talking on the phone!

<3 Jen

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Anonymous asked: Everyone always wants to pour out all of their life stories and struggles on me... but if I ever try to they get pissy and say I'm attention seeking... just once I wish I could tell someone MY story... not because I want pity from anyone... but because I just want someone besides me to know.. it's stupid and selfish, though, I guess.. I'm sorry.. I shouldn't bother you with this kind of stuff..

You don’t need to apologize, love! You aren’t bothering us at all <3 This is what we are here for!

Do you want to tell us your story? We’d love to hear it, and we won’t judge you or call you attention seeking or anything like that. You aren’t being stupid or selfish for wanting people to know your story. It’s actually very healthy to talk to people about these things and to let your feelings and emotions out!

I’m sorry that people react that way and say that kind of stuff to you. They aren’t very good friends, and are people you shouldn’t have in your life. You deserve better than them! Eventually you will find people that will listen to you and not judge you. Eventually you will find people who will treat you with the respect you deserve, I promise!

<3 Jen

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Anonymous asked: thank you, that helps a lot, i just flushed my razors and im feeling a lot better after taking some advice from your tips! thank you!

You’re welcome <3 Next time you feel triggered, don’t hesitate to come to our blog and message us, okay?

<3 Jen

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Anonymous asked: URGENT!!! Suicidalwreck01 Not responding!!! Please is she okay?

Please send love!

http://suicidalwreck01.tumblr.com/

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Anonymous asked: Really, don't eat after 8:00pm? Wow, another pro anorexia blog. I can't believed I followed you. I'm sickened to my stomach. I'm reporting you. I.. can't even. :(

I have absolutely no idea why you would think we are a pro anorexia blog. We aren’t: at all. Eating disorders are extremely dangerous, and are not something we support in the least bit. On a daily basis we try to help people recover from their eating disorders. Telling someone not to eat after 8 pm is not pro-anorexia. It’s actually recommended by many health blogs and websites, because you are more likely to overeat at night when you are tired, and you are more likely to eat unhealthy things like chips, icecream, etc. I am not pro-anorexia at all, and this blog certainly is not pro-anorexia.

<3 Jen

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Anonymous asked: My scars just started hurting... like it feels like there are fresh cuts or that someone is cutting them open again but they're just scars.. why are they hurting like this..?

Hi love,

My scars do this sometimes as well. From what I know, I think it’s relatively normal. They really aren’t quite sure why old scars hurt every now and then, but I don’t think it’s anything to be worried about! If your scar continues to hurt for a few days, gets really red, is painful to the touch, is really warm, etc, it could be infected and you should see your doctor ASAP.

<3 Jen

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Anonymous asked: what's a good way to lose weight?

Hi love,

Honestly, the best way to lose weight is to eat healthy and exercise. It sucks, but it really is the best and safest way to lose weight. Diet pills really don’t work, are dangerous, and are a waste of money. Try making a list of ways you can be healthier. For example, I made a list like this a while back, and I wrote down:

1. Drink more water

2. Don’t drink soda or juices

3. Exercise at least twice a week for an hour

4. Don’t eat after 8pm

Start off small: make a small list of things to work on / change. If you make a big list, you will get overwhelmed and be more likely to give up. After you’ve accomplished the few goals you set in the beginning, then make more goals! Slowly but surely you will begin to see progress.

<3 Jen

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Anonymous asked: Is it possible to over dose on melatonin?I'm asking because I have a friend visiting and they want me to hide a few pills but melatonin seems harmless to me. I just want to check.

We really don’t like to give out this kind of information. Because what if I tell you that you can overdose on melatonin, so then someone sees this post and tries to overdose on it? Or what if I tell you that you can’t overdose on melatonin, so then someone who sees this post uses something stronger, instead of the melatonin they originally planned on using, which then kills them? If you come off anon, I’d be more than willing to give you this info! But I don’t want to post it publicly.

<3 Jen

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