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Could you try wearing a dress with sleeves? Or maybe even wear long white gloves. At our prom one girl I knew wore long white gloves because of her scars and a lot of us wore them so that it didn’t stand out. Don’t worry about messaging us we love to help :) Try bio oil as well that can help scars to fade quickly as well.
First of all, you need to realise that you aren’t being fair or objective about this. We’re often very critical about ourselves, thinking we’re far worse and look far worse than we really are. We’re our worst judges, and those thoughts often feed on themselves and spiral out of hand. But you need to be rational about this, love. You’re being mean and cruel to yourself and you don’t deserve that.
Beauty is nothing but a social construct. It evolves and changes and is completely and utterly made up and artificial. Many many years ago, in China, fatness was considered the epitome of beauty. Now, skinniness is. There’s really no objective standard to measure beauty by. You’re beautiful in your own way, and you’re not ugly at all. And just because you may not fit into society’s rigid model of beauty does not mean that you are not beautiful. Have you heard of the phrase “beauty is in the eye of the beholder”? It’s true. Beauty is entirely subjective.
Also, you may feel ugly but that doesn’t mean that you are. How you feel isn’t how it is. That’s just how you perceive yourself. And how you perceive yourself is flawed in this case.
Lastly, I saw this post somewhere about how you may not like your features individually and your features alone may not be anything stunning, but put together you are a masterpiece. It’s just like how a cake is made up of ingredients that taste bland or awful by themselves, but put together, it makes something delicious. You are not your individual constituents. You are not even the sum of them. You are more than that. You are everything put together. There’s no checklist you can go about marking yourself against. The fact is that you are who you are, you look how you do, and that is perfectly okay.
That’s great! I’m so happy that it turned out well for you! And you’re right, sometimes we expect things to be a lot worse than they really turn out to be.
Why do you have to? What’s going on, love? Please talk to me. What’s wrong?
I’m sorry you cut, love. Do you want to talk about that? What made you? I promise that you don’t need to get more blood out. Can you try using a red marker or red paint on your skin instead? That can help. Or keep yourself distracted so the urges don’t take too much space? What about watching a movie or packing your room?
You really don’t need to hide this from your therapist, love. They’re there to help you, and you should tell them the truth so that they can help you better. They need to know how you’re doing to be able to tailor therapy to suit you.
As for your parents, can you wear a long-sleeved shirt or a sweater or something? What are your parents like? Are they understanding about mental health issues? Because if they are, then it’s not a bad thing if they know. In fact, it can help to have them in the know so that they can help keep you safe and help you get better.
But for now, please please put that bobby pin away. Throw it out. You don’t need it. Keeping it around is only going to do more harm than good.
That thought that you need to continue until you finally destroy yourself? That you deserve pain and death? All those are not objective or rational, love. Those are the products of depression. Which is why you can’t listen to them. You deserve to get help and get better, and the thoughts that say otherwise are the mean voices of depression that want to hurt you.
Do you think you can talk to a professional about how you’re feeling? A school counsellor or a doctor, perhaps? They’ll be able to help you or refer you to someone who can. You’ll get out of this, love, you really will. You won’t have to feel like this forever, and you won’t be.
What’s been keeping you from self-harming for the past four months? Why do you feel like going back? Four months is really huge and it’s amazing, love. Please don’t go back there. It’ll be so much harder to dig yourself out of the hole if you fall back in. Can you get rid of the tools you use to hurt yourself, and make sure that you don’t get any new ones? And if the urges get really bad, can you try some alternatives (like holding an ice cube or using a red marker or red paint on your skin instead)?
Starvation by death is extremely painful, and hardly ever effective. Chances are high that you’ll just end up fainting and/ or with a serious medical condition that will lead to you being in the hospital until you’re healthy again. So please don’t deny yourself food. That’s not the way to go. You don’t deserve pain or death, love. There’s no reason you should. There really isn’t.
You will get through this. You can get better. And you deserve to. Please don’t give up, love.
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What’s going on, love? Why are you saying this? I agree that Kay will do great here, but did something trigger this? Are you about to hurt yourself or anything?