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Anonymous asked: I am always hungry but I don't want to gain weight... I eat (not very much but healty) I think I might have an ednos and my boyfriend thinks I have anorexia because he always tells me how thin I am... But I can't see it, I see my body as fat, my legs are awfully BIG and after eating my tummy becomes big and the skin over it feels really tight... I feel like crying every time I watch myself in the mirror...

Hi love,

We can’t diagnose you because we aren’t medical professionals, but I will say, in my personal opinion, I think you might have some sort of eating disorder. You fit many of the basic symptoms of an eating disorder (irrational fear of gaining weight, distorted body perceptions, restricting your food intake to a very minimal amount to avoid gaining weight, etc).

First, I want to start off by saying that food isn’t the enemy. Contrary to what your mind is telling you, it’s 100% okay to eat. In fact, you need to eat to survive! Every single living thing on this planet needs to eat. Cats eat. Dogs eat. Fish eat. Every animal eats. Even plants eat (they just ‘eat’ sunlight). You’re not going to gain weight by eating. Eating will simply give your body the fuel and energy it needs to function properly! You will only gain weight if you eat very unhealthy and in large amounts over a long period of time. But if you eat relatively healthy and balance it with exercise and a healthy lifestyle, you won’t gain weight. And there’s nothing wrong with gaining weight, love. Your body needs fat for extra energy, to help regulate your body temperature, etc. If your body didn’t have any fat, you would die.

Oftentimes with eating disorders, the people can’t see how thin they are. Other people tell them they are thin, but in their eyes, they can only see how fat they are. This sounds like what is going on with you. Also, everybodys stomach is big after eating! Every single human being’s stomach expands when they eat. Think about it this way: your putting food into your stomach, so it expands to accommodate that food. Then, once your body breaks down the food, your stomach returns to normal! That’s 100% normal, love.

It sounds like you have really distorted perceptions of yourself and eating, which is characteristic of an eating disorder. Eating disorders are very, very serious. They can lead to many side effects and complications. Your hair can start falling out, your nails can become brittle and break/crack, your organs can start to fail, you can have heart problems, you might stop having your period which then may lead to you becoming infertile and not able to have kids, and many, many more very serious things. Eating disorders can even kill you. So please, love, get help! Get help before it’s too late. Reach out to your family, a teacher, a doctor, or a therapist. I know it’s scary, but it’s really hard to battle this on your own. You need professional help, and the support of your loved ones, in order to overcome this!

<3 Jen

Anonymous asked: The last 3 days I've been binging so much, I can't deal with this anymore. I'm so sick all the time because I eat so so much!! How can I stop this...

Hi love,

First I want to start off by asking you… what qualifies as binging to you? What do you think is ‘eating so much’? The reason I ask is because your perception of what qualifies as a lot to eat might actually not be a lot to eat!  Many times people’s opinions on what is a lot to eat are extremely skewed. One time I talked to someone who thought a lot to eat was 1000 calories, which is not true at all. On a daily basis you need around 2000 calories for your body to function optimally! Also, how do you feel sick all the time? What symptoms do you have?

We’ll figure out something, love. We are here to help you through this!

<3 Jen

Anonymous asked: (Pt 1)Hey idk why I feel like this (maybe anxiety?) But I hate when random ppl on facebook or tumblr or others message me cause I feel awkward. Same with in person. I cant go to school partys cause I feel awkward especially when people force me to

(Pt 2) dance and its hard for me to ask questions to store clerks or teachers and ita ruining my life… idk what to do and schools starting so that means new teachers and kids and ugh… any advice and what may be causing this? Thanks ♣

Hi love, sorry for the late response!

I know how you feel, because I feel exactly the same way! But what you have to realize is that you might feel awkward, but that doesn’t actually mean you are awkward. You might perceive yourself, your actions, and your words as awkward, but I can almost 100% guarantee that others aren’t perceiving you that way! Let me give you an example. I get really, really anxious for oral presentations. During the presentation, my heart rate skyrockets, my hands shake, my voice shakes, etc. I get so embarrassed because I feel like everyone can tell I’m so nervous. And quite a few times, after I was done with my presentation, several people came up to me and said that I did such an amazing job, didn’t seem nervous at all, and asked how I stay so calm!!!! A lot of times we think things are so noticeable to others, but they really aren’t.

With that being said, it sounds like you are suffering from social anxiety. Take a look at this link.  Read through it and see if it sounds like you, and if so, try looking at some of the suggestions on that page on how to cope with social anxiety!

Good luck,

<3 Jen

Anonymous asked: Jen - I'm not sure if you remember me, but I was the suicide date anon a while ago and I didn't go through with it, and I also told you I had finally had a good full day and was glad I stuck around to experience it. Well I wanted to let you know that since then, I've have many good days. God they've been wonderful. Of course I've experienced bad ones but holy cow the good ones outweigh them. I want to thank you for everything you've done for me. (1/2)

(2/2) Jen - without your help I wouldn’t have gone through days where my cheeks literally hurt from smiling! Things have been looking up. Also, I actually have a boyfriend now! For the first time in 3 years I have someone who cares about me in that way and he is absolutely amazing. I will hold onto these good days when the bad days come. I’m stronger now. Thank you so, so much! You are incredible! -SDA

Of course I remember you! What a wonderful message to come home to :) This message seriously made my day. I’m so happy things have been looking up for you, love! You deserve all this happiness <3 You deserve all these good days that are happening to you! Also, congrats on your boyfriend, he’s a lucky guy :) Thank you so much for taking the time to send in this message. Please don’t hesitate to message in any time you need anything, okay?

<3 Jen

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Anonymous asked: Death-will-heal-us is about to kill herself. Please help!

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Anonymous asked: kyoukamii needs help rigjt now please its very important

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Anonymous asked: Please send love to agentrayepenber. She seems to be getting progressively more upset and suicidal. I'm getting worried that I will not be enough to help her.

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Anonymous asked: I tried to submit someone's URL three times last night but no one ever did anything :(

We get over 50+ reports a day. We try our best to get to each one, but sometimes we miss them! That is why we rely so heavily on our followers to help us message people.

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walmart-dot-com asked: BLADESNBANDS NEEDS HELP PLEASEE PLEASE

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Hi! i was wondering if you could help spread the word about my world suicide prevention day project

My goal for this project is to create a page that encourage others to not take their own lives and seek help. I want everyone to know that the end isn’t now and they’ve got so much to live for. I know that there are a lot of articles online that helps you with this, but I want real stories from real people like you guys. 

So if you would like to participate, submit your story here. If you don’t want to share your story but would like to say a few words of encouragement, you are more than welcomed to do so. Every submission would be featured on a page that looks like this. 

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I would like to have all submissions by September 9 if possible. I know that’s only a week away, but the more I have the more people we get to help. Your stories would be anonymous unless you say otherwise. 

-Kelly(:

This looks really great, followers you should check it out (and reblog to spread the word!)

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Anonymous asked: I don't want to die but i don't want to live anymore if i'm going to live like this. You may think that there is some way to fix it but there is no way out of school and i have tried to get help multiple times by teachers, school counselers, therapists and they do try to help but it isn't enough. Nothing helps anymore.

Hey there,

I know life seems pretty sucky right now, but guess what? School doesn’t last forever. And you can change and shape your life however you want. People go to school for 16-18 years… we live for 80+ years - that’s like, just a quarter of your life. You have the other 3 quarters to live, dear.

Sometimes it takes time to find someone who knows how to help you, but you’ve got to try different people. I know nothing seems to help but there are options and one day you’ll find something or someone that/who does help - and you’ll thank yourself for making it through this crappy part of your life.

What’s bothering you, dear, why don’t you want to live anymore?

-Kara

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Anonymous asked: Is using a hair dryer on your scars considered self harm ?

Hi there,

Anything you do with the intention of hurting yourself is “self harm” - it doesn’t matter what it is.

Is there anything you would like to talk about, dear?

-Kara

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Anonymous asked: josh really isn't ok :(

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Anonymous asked: Thatgurrlkaylie hasn't responded in 3days!!! Omg!

Has anyone heard anything?

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