Anonymous asked: i have 15 pills in my drawer and i know theres a bigger bottle somewhere in the house. honestly im just tired of being forgotten. im obviously the cause for a lot of stress in my house. i cant even cut deep enough or clean my blades right or starve right. hell i cant even overdose right. theres something happening at the end of august which is stressing me out alot but i was suicidal before that came up. im tired of never getting better with so many things -Lia (i guess i'll start signing off?)

Hey Lia. Do you want to tell me more about what’s happening at the end of August? Whatever it is, though, dying is definitely not the answer, I can promise you that. Whatever it is, you will get through it, and things will be okay one way or another. I know there seems like there are insurmountable obstacles but the truth is there is nothing that cannot be overcome. You will be able to get through it, and if you tell me more about what it is, we can work out a plan for you, okay?

Can you give your pills to someone or at least keep them somewhere more inaccessible, love? You really don’t need them. I know you feel like you want to die but dying isn’t going to make anything better. It just removes all the possibilities of things getting better and erases all the better days in your future, simultaneously hurting all the people who care about you and who love you. You deserve so much more than to die. You have so much ahead of you and you deserve to live that out and see it through. 

- Charissa

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Anonymous asked: My life is going to get really fucked up if I don't stop procrastinating and start working but I can't. Help?

It can be really hard to stop procrastinating, but there definitely are things that can help. First of all, can you make a list of your top few distractions? They can be your mobile phone, the computer, anything. Then, remove them from your study area, or go somewhere to study where they aren’t around.

Block out your study times - for example, set your study time for an hour, and then take a five minute break (but don’t use those distractions because that can easily go out of hand). Good things to do during study breaks are: get some water, pace about, do a few jumping jacks, get a healthy snack, etc. 

HabitRPG is also a great application to increase your motivation and reduce procrastination, check it out! 

- Charissa

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Anonymous asked: babygirlminaj/witchcrvfting

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Alright loves, I’m heading to bed. It’s 3am and I have work in the morning… Oops.

If your message hasn’t been answered yet, I’m so sorry. Please hang tight, we will try to get to your message ASAP!

Remember, you’re stronger than you know. You can get through tonight❤️

- Jen

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Anonymous asked: daft-punkie wants to cut

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Anonymous asked: lindseybuckingam has been making suicidal posts all night, and recently posted something very alarming (saying she took some pills). i'm not sure what to do, other than sending messages (i have no contact info for her), so maybe an influx of messages could help!

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Anonymous asked: lindseybuckingam wants to kill herself

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Anonymous asked: ...I feel like a failure... Everyone is looking to me with expectations I can't meet... I'm not allowed to break down because everyone comes to me for support... I broke my five year old promise not to cut so I can't even look my best friend in the eye... I'm really wondering why I don't just end it... But somehow I just prefer making shallow cuts.... Everytime I try to go through with it I fail... I know that's probly good but what should I do.... I'm at my limit...

You’re not a failure, love. I’m sure nobody else thinks you’re a failure, either! It sounds like you are being too hard on yourself. You say that other people have too high of expectations for you… Are you sure they’re the ones with the high expectations, or is it that you have too high of expectations for yourself? Maybe you think they have high expectations, but they actually don’t!

You’re still allowed to break down even if people come to you for support love. A lot of people come to TSwatch for support, so does that mean none of the admins can break down because they need to support others? No, of course not! Support is a two way thing. You should support the people you love, and in return they will support you back because they love you!

It sounds like you keep things all bottled up inside, which isn’t good. These things have a way of eating you from the inside out. With that in mind, the best thing you can do is talk to people about how you are feeling! Talk to yor friends, talk to your family, talk to a therapist or doctor. Don’t keep your feelings inside love. Let your emotions out!

- Jen

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Anonymous asked: Do you know if some people cut because they want to see blood?

Yup, I’ve heard of that before actually! If you go to this page (http://healing-and-recovery.tumblr.com/Alternatives) they actually have a list of alternatives for people that cut to see blood.

- Jen

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Anonymous asked: I've been clean for two years but I just relapsed and I relapsed really hard and now there are burn marks all over my legs and stomach and arms (I burn instead of cut) and I feel like all of those two years are just gone as if I was never even clean. I'm such a failure and I know there are pills in the cabinet and I keep wanting to go get them but I'm keeping myself occupied so I don't and I really feel like I'm going to fail( I'm sorry for typed English I am from Germany)

Your English is great love! No need to apologize. I didn’t even realize you weren’t a native English speaker until you said you were from Germany.

You’re not a failure for relapsing, love. Even though you relapsed, that doesn’t take away the fact that you were clean for two years!!!! It doesn’t erase those two years! Those two years still happened, they don’t just disappear. It’s amazing that you were clean for two years, and that shows just how strong and amazing you are. If you were clean for two years once before, you can be clean for two years again!

What was different about this time that made you give in to the urge to hurt yourself? What caused you to relapse? Try to figure out why you relapsed this time but you didn’t relapse for two years. What happened?

What I want you to do right now is make a list. Divide the paper in half. On one side, write down why self-harm is bad. On the other side, right down reasons not to self-harm. This might help you get back on your feet. You’ve hit a bump in the road, but you can stand back up and continue your journey to recovery. It’s going to be hard, but you’re more than strong enough to do it!

- Jen

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Anonymous asked: My friend just overdosed yesterday and the authorities were too late and I was on my way to visit her an do feel like it's my fault because if I had come sooner she would be alive right now and even though I've been clean for 6 months I feel like cutting again (please add her to In Memory- Adelheid Diefenbaker: August 8th, 1998-July 24th, 2014)

I’m so sorry for your loss. I will add her now.

Love, your friend wouldn’t want you hurting yourself because of her! She would want you to be happy and live your life to the fullest. She wouldn’t want you to blame yourself or for you to hurt yourself. I know how hard it is to lose a friend to suicide. My one good friend Nick killed himself two years ago. But no matter what, it is NOT your fault. We can’t save people, we can only help them save themselves. Please make sure to talk to people about how you are feeling and what you are going through. That will help you feel much better and will help you get through this tough time. Cutting on the other hand? That will just make things ten times worse!

- Jen

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girls-boys-and-suicide asked: Josh changed his URL he's new one is Project-your-voice I believe

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Anonymous asked: april--20 is her address but i think her user name is kcuf she needs help. I stumbled onto one of her posts a few minutes ago and I'm scared, please help her.

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Anonymous asked: so-allein seems sad like sadder than usual sad

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Anonymous asked: Hi, so, I started cutting last year, maybe earlier. I don't do it that often. I honestly have no clue why, I am one of the happiest people. Sometimes when I do it I get mad that it wont actually cut my skin and I do a bunch of shallow cuts. Do you have any idea why I might be doing this or how to stop?

Do you remember what first caused you to start cutting? The first time you ever cut, what was happening or what was the situation?

A lot of people think that you have to be sad to self-harm, but that’s not the case at all. People cut not only when they are sad, but when they are angry, when they are stressed, when they feel guilty, when they are scared. I’ve read quite a few stories where people who weren’t suffering from depression cut themselves. They were often really popular, successful, happy people, but for some reason they would cut themselves when they were stressed. Is it possible that stress is what triggers you to cut? Or maybe it’s low self esteem, because you don’t feel good enough or don’t feel like you meet people’s expectations? There could be many different reasons, but you don’t have to be depressed to self-harm.

As for how to stop… The best thing you can do is tell people about what is going on. Open up to friends and family about your struggles with self-harm. I know it’s scary, but you can’t fight this battle on your own. Recovery is nearly impossible on your own. You also need to see a therapist or psychologist, because they can teach you healthy ways to cope with whatever is causing you to cut!

Get rid of all of the tools that you use to hurt yourself. If you keep them around your room or even around your house, you are setting yourself up to relapse. It’s so important that you get rid of what you use to hurt yourself!! You won’t ever recover if you keep them. So throw them out or give them to a friend to throw out. If it’s something like scissors or knives, have your parents keep those things hidden and locked up. That way, even if you get the urge to hurt yourself, you won’t be able to!

Also try making a plan for when you are triggered and having the urge to self-harm. For example, talking to my boyfriend really helps me when I am triggered. So then when I want to cut, I call him instead. Maybe you could do something like that? Or maybe you could do something like,”if I am triggered I will draw.” Having a set plan in mind will help you not give into the urges when they arise. Try writing your plan down so that when you are triggered you can get it out and read it. For example, you could have a piece of paper that says,”If you are triggered, call ______. If you can’t call ______, try these things: _______, __________, and _______.”

Recovery is a hard road, but it’s so worth it. Good luck love, and don’t hesitate to message in if you have any more questions!

- Jen

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