thinfluential-shit just made a worrying post :/ could you help
Anonymous

Please send some love to http://thinfluential-shit.tumblr.com/

I will message them now and see if I can help <3 

Kay

Posted on Apr 24
I'm the anon who messaged a few days ago about my scars showing at prom. wearing a longer dress wont solve anything bc they're on my arms and shoulder. i tried some of the stuff like the lemon but i'm still afraid they'll show. i relapsed last light so now there's even more on both sides now. i can cover the old ones with concealer like i usually do but the new ones still bleed and aren't going to close for quite a while due to the fact that they're quite deep. sorry to keep bothering you guys x
Anonymous

Could you try wearing a dress with sleeves? Or maybe even wear long white gloves. At our prom one girl I knew wore long white gloves because of her scars and a lot of us wore them so that it didn’t stand out. Don’t worry about messaging us we love to help :) Try bio oil as well that can help scars to fade quickly as well.

Kay x

Posted on Apr 24
I feel so ugly all the time, I hate my nose, my mouth, my eye color, my body I hate everything about myself
Anonymous

First of all, you need to realise that you aren’t being fair or objective about this. We’re often very critical about ourselves, thinking we’re far worse and look far worse than we really are. We’re our worst judges, and those thoughts often feed on themselves and spiral out of hand. But you need to be rational about this, love. You’re being mean and cruel to yourself and you don’t deserve that. 

Beauty is nothing but a social construct. It evolves and changes and is completely and utterly made up and artificial. Many many years ago, in China, fatness was considered the epitome of beauty. Now, skinniness is. There’s really no objective standard to measure beauty by. You’re beautiful in your own way, and you’re not ugly at all. And just because you may not fit into society’s rigid model of beauty does not mean that you are not beautiful. Have you heard of the phrase “beauty is in the eye of the beholder”? It’s true. Beauty is entirely subjective. 

Also, you may feel ugly but that doesn’t mean that you are. How you feel isn’t how it is. That’s just how you perceive yourself. And how you perceive yourself is flawed in this case. 

Lastly, I saw this post somewhere about how you may not like your features individually and your features alone may not be anything stunning, but put together you are a masterpiece. It’s just like how a cake is made up of ingredients that taste bland or awful by themselves, but put together, it makes something delicious. You are not your individual constituents. You are not even the sum of them. You are more than that. You are everything put together. There’s no checklist you can go about marking yourself against. The fact is that you are who you are, you look how you do, and that is perfectly okay. 

- Charissa

Posted on Apr 24
not in need of any help. just wanted to say that I shared with my family that I've had suicidal thoughts in the past, and they did not freak out nor judge me. it actually made us grow closer, and more loving towards one another. just thought I'd say that incase anyone was worrying about discussing these types im of things with family members. :)
Anonymous

That’s great! I’m so happy that it turned out well for you! And you’re right, sometimes we expect things to be a lot worse than they really turn out to be. 

- Charissa

Posted on Apr 24
Can I leave Kay in the capable hands of you all?
Anonymous

Why do you have to? What’s going on, love? Please talk to me. What’s wrong?

- Charissa

Posted on Apr 24
I just cut on my arm with a bobby pin. it's bleeding but I feel like there's not enough blood. it's burning like hell and I don't know how to hide it now.. because I see my therapist tomorrow at group and I don't want my parents knowing..
Anonymous

I’m sorry you cut, love. Do you want to talk about that? What made you? I promise that you don’t need to get more blood out. Can you try using a red marker or red paint on your skin instead? That can help. Or keep yourself distracted so the urges don’t take too much space? What about watching a movie or packing your room? 

You really don’t need to hide this from your therapist, love. They’re there to help you, and you should tell them the truth so that they can help you better. They need to know how you’re doing to be able to tailor therapy to suit you. 

As for your parents, can you wear a long-sleeved shirt or a sweater or something? What are your parents like? Are they understanding about mental health issues? Because if they are, then it’s not a bad thing if they know. In fact, it can help to have them in the know so that they can help keep you safe and help you get better. 

But for now, please please put that bobby pin away. Throw it out. You don’t need it. Keeping it around is only going to do more harm than good.

- Charissa

Posted on Apr 24
I am always so depressed and for 6 years their has been no solution. I only seem to feel empty and depressed. I can't tell anyone how I feel- I don't want to. It only feels right to continue until I finally destroy myself. I want to cut again. It's been 4 months, and I can't wait- their nothing good in stopping or living. I'll starve myself to death if I have to. I'll stop eating. I want to end it all. I deserve pain and death and I wish no one loved me so I could just die! I want to die! -Laney
Anonymous

That thought that you need to continue until you finally destroy yourself? That you deserve pain and death? All those are not objective or rational, love. Those are the products of depression. Which is why you can’t listen to them. You deserve to get help and get better, and the thoughts that say otherwise are the mean voices of depression that want to hurt you. 

Do you think you can talk to a professional about how you’re feeling? A school counsellor or a doctor, perhaps? They’ll be able to help you or refer you to someone who can. You’ll get out of this, love, you really will. You won’t have to feel like this forever, and you won’t be. 

What’s been keeping you from self-harming for the past four months? Why do you feel like going back? Four months is really huge and it’s amazing, love. Please don’t go back there. It’ll be so much harder to dig yourself out of the hole if you fall back in. Can you get rid of the tools you use to hurt yourself, and make sure that you don’t get any new ones? And if the urges get really bad, can you try some alternatives (like holding an ice cube or using a red marker or red paint on your skin instead)?

Starvation by death is extremely painful, and hardly ever effective. Chances are high that you’ll just end up fainting and/ or with a serious medical condition that will lead to you being in the hospital until you’re healthy again. So please don’t deny yourself food. That’s not the way to go. You don’t deserve pain or death, love. There’s no reason you should. There really isn’t. 

You will get through this. You can get better. And you deserve to. Please don’t give up, love. 

- Charissa

Posted on Apr 24
my-confidence-has-fallen-forever! please x
Anonymous

Please send love!

http://my-confidence-has-fallen-forever.tumblr.com/ask

Link goes straight to ask; trigger warning for depressing posts on main page.

Posted on Apr 24
check my-confidence-has-fallen-forever's blog, at 11pm( uk time )she posted her last post and it sounds quite suicidal and she hasn't been active since..
Anonymous

Please send love! Link goes straight to ask, trigger warning for depressing posts on main page.

Posted on Apr 24
Look after admin Kay. She'll do great her. And she'll need you guys.
Anonymous

What’s going on, love? Why are you saying this? I agree that Kay will do great here, but did something trigger this? Are you about to hurt yourself or anything?

- Charissa

Posted on Apr 24
Posted on Apr 24
the-mind-of-a-demisexual
Anonymous

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Posted on Apr 24
valerie-mariie is having a very hard time right now and seems alone and lost. It is extremely urgent and I am quite concerned :(
Anonymous

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Posted on Apr 24
officialjackalltimelow please send love
Anonymous

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Posted on Apr 24
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